July 9


Living with Herpes – It Isn’t That Difficult

By James

July 9, 2018

Living with Herpes


If you’ve ever been diagnosed with herpes infection, you may remember that discussion for a very long time to come. Herpes is a frightening diagnosis for many people, and the society often makes you feel like people with herpes are dirty or somehow flawed.

You might feel mad, embarrassed, ashamed, or upset at first, but you’ll probably feel a lot better as time goes by, because you will see that having herpes doesn’t have to be a big deal, and that people with herpes can have relationships and live totally normal lives. There are treatments for the infection, and there are a lot you can do to make sure you don’t give herpes to your loved ones.

Herpes infection is not a deadly one and it usually doesn’t cause any serious health problems. While the first herpes outbreaks can be annoying and painful and usually the worst, it happen less over time and may even stop completely. Even though the virus lies dormant in your body for life, it doesn’t mean you’ll be getting outbreaks all the time.

Important Information

Try not to find someone to blame when you are first diagnosed with genital herpes. Most people with herpes see no symptoms, and therefore, may not have known that he or she was putting you at risk.

No matter how tempting it is to start throwing blame around, you will agree that it’s unfair to hold others to standards you cannot uphold yourself.

Dating With Herpes

People with herpes have romantic and sexual relationships with each other, or with partners who don’t have the herpes virus.

Talking about Sexually Transmitted Diseases is not the most fun conversation you will want to have, but it’s super important to always tell partners if you have herpes, so you can help prevent it from spreading.

There is no easy way to talk about STDs, but the following are some tips that may help:

  • Keep calm and carry on:Millions of people have the herpes virus, and plenty of them are in relationships. Herpes isn’t a big deal, so try to go into the conversation with a calm, positive attitude, with the knowledge that having herpes is simply a health issue.
  • Make it a two-way conversation:Remember that your partner might have herpes too. So start by asking if they’ve ever been tested for STD before.
  • Know your facts: There is a lot of misinformation about herpes out there, so read up on the facts and be prepared to set the record straight
  • Safety first:If you think that your partner might get super aggressive if you tell them of your herpes status, then you are probably better off with an e-mail, text, or phone.

Your Sex Life and Herpes

Many individuals with herpes have concerns about their sex lives. That is a perfectly normal response but it does not mean that you can no longer have sex, it just means you need to take extra precautions when you are having foreplay or sexual intercourse.

It is very important to educate your partner about the inherent risks as there is still a chance that he or she may be infected even when there are no symptoms or signs of any outbreak.

Individuals who have the virus may consider the use of condoms, since condoms offer some form of protection against herpes. But since the virus can be transmitted via skin to skin contact, condoms cannot always be expected to be a 100% effective.

What else do I have to worry about?

Living with herpes can have a few other effects on your life, especially your health. People with herpes are at increased risk for HIV and at a higher risk of transmitting HIV. Outside of sexuality, another aspect of your life that herpes can affect is childbearing.

Herpes infections can be extremely dangerous to infants, and women with the virus should talk to their obstetricians about how to minimize the risk to their unborn children.

The greatest risk of transmission to the infant occurs in women who develops an outbreak with the herpes virus during pregnancy. Therefore, people should be especially cautious with new sexual partners, especially during pregnancy.

Lifestyle Changes

There are several life style routines you can adopt to help ease the discomfort and pain of living with the herpes virus. There are several lifestyle changes you can adopt that will make living with the virus easier to manage, and will still benefit you in the long run regardless of your health status. The following are suggested practices to implement into your daily routine.

  • Positive Mental Thinking
  • Identify Triggers: Examples of some of these include;
  • Exposure to sunlight and cold
  • Using irritating lubricants during sex. Avoid oil based lubricants.
  • Hormonal changes (e.g. menstrual cycle)
  • Wakened immune system due to an illness
  • Depression
  • Stress
  • Watch What You Eat
  • Addition of Nutritional Supplements: There are also herbs that many people report positive results with. These include: olive leaf extract, garlic, echinacea, and goldenseal and Siberian ginseng.

Facts About Herpes

  • Herpes is a virus.
  • Herpes Simplex 1 (oral) and Herpes Simplex 2 (genital) are similar, sharing 50% of their DNA.However, the two viruses typically lives in their own favorite locations. While HSV 1 most often chooses the trigeminal nerve in the face, the HSV 2 prefers the branch of nerves around the sacrum, in the lower spine. Thus cold sores eruptions show up in the mouth area, while HSV 2 eruptions occur below the waist, typically on the genitals.
  • Herpes is spread through close physical contact. It does not travel on the air or live long on inanimate objects, and people catch oral herpes through kissing or sharing objects that go into the mouth, such as toothbrushes or eating utensils. However, while HSV 1 can be transmitted through a simple non-sexual greeting kiss, such as a between friends or family, genital herpes is transmitted through sexual activity.
  • Herpes outbreaks vary in frequency and intensity. Some people can live with the virus and never have an outbreak, while others have frequent, painful and recurring outbreaks.
  • There are common triggers that cause outbreaks, g. Sunburn and wind can trigger oral herpes (watch out Stress, fevers and anything that lowers the immune system can trigger both types.
  • You can prevent or lessen outbreaks with medications. There are prescription medications that, if taken immediately at the first sign of an outbreak, can reduce or eliminate the symptoms.


Try not to play the blame game when you talk to your partner concerning your status, it doesn’t automatically mean that somebody cheated.


Millions and millions of people have herpes virus. Most people get at least one STD in their duration on earth, and having herpes or another STD is nothing to feel ashamed about.

Having herpes infection means you are a normal human who got a really common infection, and it is the fact that herpes can happen to anybody who has ever been kissed on the lips or who have had sex. That is quite a lot of people.

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